Most abusive relationships start off as the perfect love story, the person is charming and seems authentic as though they truly love you. All of you not some parts of you. The beginning is perfect and it seems as though you have finally met bone of your bone, the missing puzzle piece and the yin to your yang.

That is why at times it is hard to leave an abusive relationship, the change from perfect to abuse is very slow and gradual the person going through it may not realize or they could be in denial or they could be holding on to the memory of Mr/Miss perfect waiting for them to reappear.

The change is best illustrated by this example:

If you put a frog into a pot of boiling water it will immediately jump out, but if you put a frog into a pot of warm water and then slowly increase the heat until the water boils, the frog will remain in the pot. The frog adjusts to the slight increase in heat bit by bit so it doesn’t realize when the water is too hot to handle or its too late to get out.

It is a slow fade from love to hurt and if you are unsure if its love or control take this Quiz.




Published by Ava Tutsi

Ava Tutsi is a Disruptor, Blogger and Advocate.

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